Monday, January 29, 2007

How Do You Guys Do It???

I failed miserably in my goal to get 1500 hands in over the weekend. I should be honest with myself, and admit that my family obligations will always come before poker. Weekends are tough to get playing time in for me, except late at night. Friday, the wife had a small party at our house that prevented me from playing, and Saturday night I went to the opening event of a live tournament league. Not much to report on that, except out of 45 runners we were down to 16, when I pushed over a min raise with QQ, and got called by the dreaded AK and lost to a spiked King on the flop. Winning that hand would have easily put me in the money of a 5k-ish prize pool.

So then Sunday night comes around, and the opening event of the WPBT. I asked for permission to play in it, and was summarily rejected by the wife. In fact, my even asking to play in it started quite the argument that included lots of yelling, and me dodging various objects thrown at me from close range. The 6pm Pacific start is a little tough for me. I am officially allowed to play poker after the kids go to sleep, so any earlier tournaments I need permission or must skip. That's why I am rarely seen in the weekly blogger tourneys, except when the wife works late, and will not find out.

So my question to you guys is how do you do it? A good portion of you are married with children, yet regularly play in the weekly tourneys and special events. I have seen some discussion on this in the past, and I seem to follow the recommendations that are made. I generate 10k+ per year in profits so it's hard to argue I have a "gambling problem". I have always shared the wealth after a big tournament score, or pulled funds from the bankroll to cover an expensive project we are doing on the house. Yet still, the wife just can't stand the fact that I play poker at all. Part of the problem, I guess is that I am involved in a some regular, and irregular home games. I run the Orange County Poker Tour which is a once a month Wednesday night tournament at rotating locations. I also am part of the Orange Poker League, that is also once a month on Saturdays. Then you have the random home game that pops up from time to time. The random ones, I usually ask to go to, and get denied. Is it just too much to expect to play in a couple of live events a month, and get 5-10 hours in online weekly as well? It's a pretty tough situation I am in, but I need to try to make the best of it. Any suggestions out there?????

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14 Comments:

At 2:08 PM, Blogger lucko said...

Keep your pimp hand strong.

 
At 2:10 PM, Blogger mookie99 said...

Ha..if the pimp hand doesn't work for you, check out CC's series on Poker and Relationships (start here: http://ccexplore.blogspot.com/2006/03/relationships-and-poker-part-i.html)

 
At 2:11 PM, Blogger mookie99 said...

Relationships and Poker I

 
At 2:25 PM, Blogger Fuel55 said...

I hear you.

 
At 3:10 PM, Blogger WillWonka said...

I feel your pain...

I've even tried the line to say that this is a part time job to help out with things... no luck... still get denied.

 
At 4:50 PM, Blogger TripJax said...

Man, I couldn't help but laugh a good full minute at lucko's comment. Good stuff.

I wrote about this situation early last year. Sounds like you have a tough situation and probably already use these ideas or they just won't work.

http://tripjax.blogspot.com/2006/02/ssoft-play.html

Also, definitely read the links Mookie listed above...

TripJax

 
At 5:03 PM, Blogger Miami Don said...

The man is suppose to wear the pants in the family!

Tell her once a month your playing in the WPBT and deal with it.

 
At 8:53 PM, Blogger Wolverine Fan said...

You bring in $10,000 extra to the family income and she still says No?

Don't ask next time, tell her what you are going to do.

I play golf 4 times a week in the summer and poker year round and my wife is glad for the extra money and that I have two harmless persuits.

Guess I am pretty lucky.

 
At 9:02 PM, Blogger smokkee said...

the usual response,



grow sum ballz

 
At 2:49 PM, Blogger Guin said...

I think wolverine fan is my hero... please don't tell me sex 5 times a week as well.... 7 BJ's a week just so you start your day with a smile!

 
At 3:40 PM, Blogger bayne_s said...

Answer is simple. You need to win a trip to Caribbean or Australia. The when you come home wife might say "Don't you need to work on your Poker Skills?"

 
At 6:55 PM, Blogger Ignatious said...

groveling works.

 
At 9:19 AM, Blogger NewinNov said...

I with Wolverine on this one. I play every evening, sometimes late and missing quality time. This doesn't include my trip to AC with a friend and live games on about every other weekend. And I'm a losing player, just imagine if I was winning. Perhaps I just got lucky but the Mrs. also likes poker and we sometimes will play live games together. Getting her involved was probably key. Plus it's a hobby that keeps you off the street. Are men getting more and more emasculated lately? What's up with that?

 
At 11:00 AM, Blogger Hammer Player a.k.a Hoyazo said...

Hey man I've written often about my trials and tribulations trying to get in all the quality poker time I want. The place I've kinda settled in to is that I rarely play live, so that the 4 or 5 times a year I have the opportunity, my wife can hardly say no. Sometimes she still tries to, but at some point I figure I just have to put my foot down where I know I'm being reasonable man. Now it sounds like you play quite a bit already, but I'll be dammed if my wife is going to forbid me to play live a couple times a year. That's ridiculous and I tell her I'm going on those occasions instead of "asking" her.

Also, being on the East coast helps a ton for the blogger games, which I would never ever ever be able to play if I was in Cali and they were at 6 or 7pm at night. I only ever play online after the kids are asleep -- ever -- and just a few times a year live. That's my schedule, I know it's reasonable and that way I feel justified in not really having to go to my wife for approval of those sorts of things.

Right now I'm trying to get into the FTOPS Main Event, and if I win a satellite to get in there, it's going to be a tough row to hoe to get approval for that one on a Sunday night at 6pm ET. That is smack in the middle of prime dinner, bath and bedtime time for the kids right there.

Best of luck man.

 

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